How To Find Yourself

The other night I was up at 2 am and I was thinking... In the past year I have been through some things that have caused me to question who I am and what I want out of life. Yes, I have the typical "Where do you see yourself in five years" question answered, but that is dealing with my career goals. Who am I? I have been experimenting with that question. The whole going natural thing, which I love, is one of my "who am I" experimentation's. I have some how withdrawn in the past year. Don't get me wrong, I still go out, enjoy life with friends and family, I'm always bubbly and down for whatever, but when I'm home alone or driving by myself, I realized that I am generally not happy. What's wrong with me? I have a few theories that I wont post up, but the main issue is: I'm different and confused about who I am. So, because I google everything, a friend suggested I google "How to Find Myself". Sure enough, I did and here are some pointers that came up:

1. Create your life timeline- write down major events in your life that made you who you are, re-experience them and learn  from your previous mistakes. Take on a different perspective and do not dwell on the negatives.


2. Start with a clean slate- Develop your own "moral conduct" and remove vice from your life.


3. Lessen your dependance on social approval- You cannot please everyone and loved one's should want you to be happy.


4. Find Solitude- Take a long walk, road trip, read, write etc. Spend quality time with yourself. You shouldn't feel lonely but reflective.


5. Ask yourself challenging questions- If you had all the money in the world, all the resources, what would you be doing right now? What do you want to look back on in life and say you've never regretted. If you had three words to choose to describe the kind of person you'd love to be, what would they be?


6. Write down your answers


7. Act upon your newly discovered knowledge- Do things that you WANT to do! Plan a trip, be silly, spontaneous, adventurous. Whatever floats your boat.


8. Be ready for dead ends- Finding yourself is a journey, not a destination.


Here is what NOT to do in the "finding yourself" journey;
1. Don't spread rumors.-
2. Don't let others decide your destiny for you.
3. Don't lie to yourself and pretend to be someone else.
4. Don't get in the habit of changing who your are to fit in
5. Don't feel like you need to prove your worth to the world
6. You may not like right away the person you find- It's trial and error

So, I am going to try and apply these steps to my life. I will keep all of you updated on the "Finding myself" journey :-)

SweetestTabu xoxo

http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Yourself